Food for Thought - A Personal Perspective

What kind of goals do we set once we get married? For me, when I first got married, it took some time for us to adjust and settle down as a couple. We had to learn how to do things together and make decisions as a team, which often felt like a rollercoaster ride. Many of us assume that life becomes easier after marriage, but that’s not always the case. Marriage teaches you the importance of teamwork. When you start thinking and acting as an individual rather than working together, things often don’t go as smoothly for either partner.

A friend once told me that people don’t like being told what to do or how to fix their marriage, and I couldn’t agree more. Sometimes, I feel the same way. While advice is often given freely, I believe it’s more meaningful to offer genuine support. If I can use my skills to help someone identify what’s missing in their marriage and work with them to find solutions, it’s worth the effort.

That’s why I’m committed to continuously learning new things, so I can teach and share them effectively. By incorporating my personal experiences as relatable examples, rather than simply stating facts, I aim to grow into a better relationship coach and truly make a difference in people’s lives.

Setting goals as a married couple is an excellent way to promote teamwork, strengthen your bond, and ensure you’re both working toward a shared vision. From my experience, this approach really makes a difference. You can call it “couple goals” or even your “bucket list” — make it as creative and fun as you like! What matters most is enjoying the process together as a couple, rather than taking on everything individually for the entire family.

Setting goals also helps establish a timeline for achieving what’s most important. For my husband and me, we always strive to accomplish the goals we set for ourselves. While it’s not always possible to achieve everything as planned, with mutual support and encouragement, we manage to pull through and make progress together.

Here are some goals we set as a couple that I’d like to share with you. If you’re struggling to set goals for your relationship, these might give you a good starting point.

                     

Financial Goals 

Relationship Goals 

Spiritual and Faith Goals

Travel ,Adventure and Fun Goals 

As we continue our journey together as a couple, we will create more goals to strengthen our bond, improve our communication, and deepen our love and trust for each other.

The first goal we focused on was our financial goals, which we found to be incredibly important. Like many couples, we enjoy spending on things we love, but sometimes it can get out of hand. Setting a spending limit helped us stay on track, save money, and work toward building a more secure future together. This simple step made a big difference in managing our finances as a team (budgeting & saving). 

We even asked around for other ways we could save money, and people suggested investing. You can start small, but if you're thinking about investing in something big, it's important to ask around and gather advice before making a decision.

In our case, we sat down together, discussed our options, and decided to invest in something that could benefit us in the future.

If you have any outstanding debt, make it a priority to pay it off. Don’t let it linger, as delaying this can lead to issues between partners. Debt can create financial stress, and when you’re stressed, it becomes harder to think clearly and communicate effectively. It can even cause you to shut down emotionally, which can harm your relationship.

Stay tuned for more on setting relationship goals through my personal experience. If you feel this is an important aspect of your relationship or have any doubts, feel free to ask and learn more. There’s always room to learn and grow together.