This is for you - Loving yourself first

 

I'm dedicating this to my friend who needs to experience the power of self love and understand its importance. I have applied this to myself, as it was something I needed the most. It helped me transform both myself and my mindset. Today, whatever I do in life is for my own benefit and joy, not for the sake of others.

It pains me to see how someone can seek love from others when they don’t love themselves. They’re willing to sacrifice their own well-being to make others happy, but in return, they don’t receive that same love. The love they give is often seen as nagging, disrespect, or an invasion of privacy. So stop seeking love from others; instead, try giving yourself the same love that you freely give to others.

In the beginning, I used to seek love, always searching for it. I gave so much, expecting the same in return. When I didn’t receive it back the same way, I took the wrong path, searching and slowly destroying myself. They say we should learn from our mistakes. What I learned is that when I needed help, no one was there for me. They heard me asking for help, but no one took the time to understand why I did what I did. Instead, they judged me, which is the easiest thing to do in life. I learned life the hard way, and just when I felt like giving up, someone came to my rescue and saved me from making hasty decisions.

I would like to thank that precious soul. She truly listened to me and never acted superior. She patiently waited until I came around and asked for her help. She helped me realize that I am precious, and my life is valuable. The first step is to love yourself; when you do, you won’t have to seek love from others—it will naturally come to you. And guess what? It actually did." You need to take the first step. Happiness isn’t something we find externally; it begins within us." 

People around me, whom I like to call 'society,' always claimed to have good intentions for me—though, honestly, they didn't. Society often wishes to see a person fail, rather than rise, and will rarely step forward to help. They would rather see you fall and enjoy it. So, don’t give them the space to witness you losing control over yourself. Learn to love yourself more. It may seem selfish to others, but let them think what they want. In the end, it will bring you happiness and help you embrace life in a better way.

If you're wondering how to start or where to begin, I’ve got you covered. First, prepare yourself for a change—from constantly being negative about yourself to becoming the positive and vibrant person you want to be. Ask yourself, 'What will I gain by starting to love myself?' From there, you can begin taking steps toward self-love.

Loving yourself means embracing your flaws, strengths, and uniqueness. By doing this, you cultivate a sense of self-worth that isn’t tied to perfection or achievement. Don’t compare your life to others; focus on what makes you happy and brings you joy. This mindset helps you concentrate on your own journey and accomplishments, rather than measuring your worth against someone else’s successes. It will inspire you to invest in yourself, try new things, pursue your passions, and build the courage to step out of your comfort zone. Believing in yourself will give you the ability to grow and succeed.

Self-love not only transformed my life but also inspired me to help others do the same. I began making choices that nurtured both my body and my mind. I’m still learning to prioritize my health—both mentally and physically. By focusing on what truly matters and letting go of what doesn’t, I’ve improved my overall well-being.

I could go on about self-love, but I need to stop at some point. I hope this brings you comfort and helps you realize that you are important too. Do the things that make you happy. By loving yourself, you unlock the door to true and lasting happiness. 

I'm here if you need a push to start loving yourself .