Why Do Marriages Fall Apart So Soon? Let’s Talk About It.

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Why Do Marriages Fall Apart So Soon? Let’s Talk About It.


Hey there! As a new blogger and someone who’s passionate about understanding relationships, I’ve been reflecting on a question that many of us might have thought about:

Why do so many marriages end almost as quickly as they begin?

It’s surprising how often couples realize—just weeks or months after their wedding—that things aren’t working out. But why is this realization happening after marriage? Couldn’t these issues have been addressed earlier? What’s stopping us from confronting the cracks before they turn into an unfixable chasm?

Maybe it’s fear. Maybe it’s avoidance. Maybe we’re hoping the problems will disappear on their own. Or maybe some of us don’t know where to begin. Whatever the reason, it’s clear that many couples hesitate to take that first step toward resolving their differences.




But here’s the thing: marriage isn’t about perfection. It’s not about living out a fairy tale or matching the highlight reels of picture-perfect couples on social media. Marriage is about connection, commitment, and compromise. And yes, conflicts will happen—but they don’t have to tear you apart.


The 5 C’s of Marriage

I recently stumbled upon a method called the 5 C’s of Marriage. It’s a simple yet powerful tool to help you figure out where your relationship stands and how you and your partner can grow together. This method can shine a light on the small things you might be overlooking—things that, over time, make a huge difference.

Marriage requires more than just love; it needs care and intentional effort. Before marriage, couples often go above and beyond for each other, showering their partner with attention and affection. But once the vows are exchanged, something shifts. Priorities change, and sometimes, we unknowingly take each other for granted.


Why does this happen? Is it because we assume love will sustain itself? Or is it because we’re not taught how to nurture our relationships beyond the honeymoon phase?



Redefining the “Work” in Marriage

Let’s be clear: marriage shouldn’t feel like an uphill battle every single day. But it also isn’t a “set it and forget it” kind of thing. Healthy relationships require mutual effort—small, intentional acts of care and connection that keep the bond strong.

And when conflicts arise (because they will), it’s important to handle them with kindness, respect, and openness. Create a safe space where you and your partner can express yourselves without fear of judgment. That’s how trust is built—and rebuilt—over time.


Let’s Start the Conversation

If you feel like there are gaps in your marriage or relationship, you’re not alone. The good news is, it’s never too late to start making improvements. The smallest steps can lead to big changes, and I’d love to share some insights and tips to help you strengthen your bond.

Marriage is worth fighting for—but it’s not about fighting with each other. It’s about learning, growing, and rediscovering the love that brought you together in the first place.

What do you think?

 Why do you think some marriages fall apart so quickly?

 And what steps can we take to rebuild and strengthen our relationships?

 Let’s start this conversation. I’d love to hear your thoughts!




By- Aurelia Jonas (MAAURA)

Personal Growth & Relationship Coach .

Email ID: maauragrowthcoach@gmail.com

Insta ID: maaura57




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