The Weight Of Being Taken For Granted

The Weight of Being Taken for Granted

Have you ever felt like no matter how much love, time, and effort you give, it’s never enough? 

That people expect you to always be there for them, yet when you need them, they disappear? 

Being taken for granted is one of the most painful experiences—it makes you feel invisible, unappreciated, and exhausted.

I’ve felt this so many times. I’ve given my all, only to realize that some people never valued it. I’ve been ignored, disrespected, used, and even blamed for things that weren’t my fault. It took me a long time to understand that being a good person doesn’t mean letting people walk all over me. And if you’re feeling this way, I want you to know—you don’t have to live like this.

So, let’s talk about what this really feels like, and more importantly, how to overcome it.

1. The Pain of Being Ignored

You send a message. No reply. You try to speak, but people talk over you. You make plans, but they keep getting canceled. Slowly, you start to feel invisible, like you don’t matter.

How to Overcome It:

• Stop chasing people who don’t value your presence. 
• If someone consistently ignores you, take the hint and move on.
• Focus on those who make an effort. 
• Sometimes, we waste so much energy on the wrong people that we don’t see the ones who actually care.
• Speak up , if you feel like someone is ignoring you on purpose, call it out. If they don’t change, you have your answer.

2. The Sting of Disrespect

Disrespect can come in many forms—sarcastic remarks, dismissing your feelings, rolling their eyes when you speak, or constantly interrupting you. It’s the little things that add up and make you feel small.

How to Overcome It:

• Set boundaries - If someone disrespects you, tell them, "I won’t allow you to speak to me that way."
• Distance yourself - If someone repeatedly disrespects you, stop giving them access to you.
• Know your worth - You don’t need to tolerate disrespect just to keep the peace. The right people will treat you well without being asked.

3. Being Used: A One-Sided Exchange

Have you ever noticed how some people only reach out when they need something? They call you their "best friend" when they need a favor but disappear when you need support.

How to Overcome It:

• Say NO - It’s hard, but necessary. Stop giving to people who never give back.
• Test the relationship - Next time, don’t be the first to reach out. See how long it takes for them to check on you. If they never do, you have your answer.
• Surround yourself with givers - Real relationships are about mutual care, not just one person doing all the work.

4. Being the Last Priority

It’s painful when people always put you last. They make time for others but never for you. They expect you to wait, to be patient, to understand.

How to Overcome It:

• Stop making excuses for them. If they wanted to, they would.
• Shift your focus. Start prioritizing yourself instead of waiting for them to.
• Walk away if needed. You deserve to be with people who value you, not ones who treat you as an afterthought.

5. Loving 100%, Receiving Less

You love deeply. You give your all. You’re always there. But when it’s time for them to show up for you, they don’t. It feels unfair, exhausting, and heartbreaking.

How to Overcome It:

• Accept that you can’t force people to love you the way you love them.
• Match energy. If they give 50%, you give 50%. Stop overextending yourself.
• Love yourself first. You shouldn’t have to prove your worth for love. The right people will see it without being asked.

6. Backstabbed by Those Closest to You

Family and close friends are supposed to have your back, but sometimes, they are the ones who hurt you the most. Whether it's gossip, betrayal, or lies, it always cuts deep.

How to Overcome It:

• Don’t ignore the red flags - If someone has betrayed you once, don’t give them another chance to do it again.
• Set firm boundaries - Even with family, you can decide how much access they have to you.
• Protect your peace - Sometimes, distance is the best response.

7. The Feeling of Being Invisible

When people talk over you, make decisions without you, or dismiss your thoughts, it can make you feel like you don’t exist.

How to Overcome It:

• Own your presence - Walk into rooms like you belong there—because you do.
• Speak up - If someone interrupts you, say, "I wasn’t finished speaking."
• Be around people who value your voice. You shouldn’t have to fight to be noticed.

8. Being Blamed for Others’ Mistakes

Ever been blamed for something you didn’t do? Some people refuse to take responsibility for their actions, so they make you the scapegoat.

How to Overcome It:

• Don’t accept blame that isn’t yours. Say, "That’s not my responsibility."
• Call it out. If someone blames you unfairly, make it clear that you won’t tolerate it.
• Detach. Some people will never admit they are wrong—don’t waste your energy trying to convince them.

9. Absorbing Others' Frustration

People take out their bad moods on you, even when you’ve done nothing wrong.

How to Overcome It:

• Don’t engage - If someone is lashing out, step away.
• Holding people accountable - Say, "I won’t be spoken to like this " makes them rethink their behavior.
• Protect your energy - Their frustration is not your burden to carry.

10. Being Someone’s Emotional Punching Bag

Some people dump all their negativity on you. They criticize, complain, and drain your spirit.

How to Overcome It:

• Limit your time with them.
• Redirect the conversation. If they start dumping on you, ask, "Do you want advice, or do you just need to vent?" This makes them self-aware.
• Put yourself first. You are not responsible for fixing other people’s emotions at the cost of your own peace.

Conclusion: Choosing Yourself

I’ve learned the hard way that being a good person doesn’t mean tolerating bad treatment. If someone doesn’t appreciate you, it’s not your job to make them. If they don’t value your presence, give them your absence.

By- Aurelia Jonas (MAAURA)

Personal Growth & Relationship Coach .

Email ID: maauragrowthcoach@gmail.com

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