My First Time Being A Relationship Coach

  I'm dedicating this to my friend who needs to experience the power of self love and understand its importance. I have applied this to myself, as it was something I needed the most. It helped me transform both myself and my mindset. Today, whatever I do in life is for my own benefit and joy, not for the sake of others. It pains me to see how someone can seek love from others when they don’t love themselves. They’re willing to sacrifice their own well-being to make others happy, but in return, they don’t receive that same love. The love they give is often seen as nagging, disrespect, or an invasion of privacy. So stop seeking love from others; instead, try giving yourself the same love that you freely give to others. In the beginning, I used to seek love, always searching for it. I gave so much, expecting the same in return. When I didn’t receive it back the same way, I took the wrong path, searching and slowly destroying myself. They say we should learn from our mistakes. What I l...

"Hello everyone! Last week, I met up with a friend I hadn’t seen in a while since she got married. We both realized we had some free time and decided to meet for a cup of coffee and a little chat. We made plans, set a date, and picked a place where we could relax and catch up. When the day finally arrived, I was so excited to see her and hear all about how she and her spouse were doing and how married life was treating her. I was also looking forward to catching up on everything we’d missed while being busy with our lives. As I entered the coffee shop, I spotted her sitting in a cozy garden area filled with beautiful flowers and vines. It felt like stepping into a serene picnic spot, perfect for relaxing and having a fun chat. She had picked the best spot in the shop—quiet and private—where we could talk without interruptions or anyone eavesdropping. I walked over to her, greeted her warmly, and hugged her with excitement. We were both so happy to see each other after such a long ...

Marriage is a beautiful bond where two individuals come together, fall deeply in love, and create a safe and cherished space they call their own. As Mignon McLaughlin once said, "A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person." It is a journey of rediscovery, where love deepens and grows with time. Marriage is not just a legal agreement but a profound commitment that holds immense value. It must be safeguarded with care, respect, and unwavering love. As Dave Meurer wisely noted, "A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences." This understanding builds resilience and strength within the relationship. Marriage is also a fresh start—a foundation for building a home, a family, and a shared future filled with dreams and goals. It is not without its challenges or limitations, but as Maya Angelou beautifully expressed, "Love recognizes ...

Have you ever paused to think about how relationships between married couples actually work? Have you researched, Googled, or even considered studying this topic? Most of us don’t approach marriage with a guidebook in hand. Some prefer to "go with the flow." But as the days, months, or years pass, questions begin to creep in: Did I make the right decision? Was getting married the right call? Did I choose the right partner? If you claim these thoughts have never crossed your mind, let’s be honest—you’re probably in denial. In my eight years of marriage, I’ve often felt like something was missing. I couldn’t shake off this nagging sense of self-doubt. Was I doing enough? Was I just following societal norms of what a wife should do? Seeking clarity, I turned to Google. That’s when I stumbled upon the concept of the 5 C’s in marriage: Communication, Compatibility, Commitment, Care, and Compromise. I realized I was already applying some of these principles but wondered if I could ...

 If you’ve read the earlier blog Food for Thought, this post continues the discussion on how I can help you set your relationship goals or inspire you to create your bucket list. Previously, we focused on financial goals, which play a crucial role in our lives by guiding us in budgeting, saving, and investing to secure our future. Now, let’s move on to Relationship Goals, which I believe should be the second most important priority on your list. When setting relationship goals, our primary focus was on improving communication. I am someone who loves to talk, whereas my spouse is a man of few words. In the beginning, this gave me the impression that I wasn’t being heard. This led to conflicts, misunderstandings, and growing tension between us. One day, we decided to sit down and address the issue maturely. We asked ourselves: Why are we always bickering? Why do we fail to understand each other's feelings, leading to arguments? That conversation became a turning point. We agreed to f...

What kind of goals do we set once we get married? For me, when I first got married, it took some time for us to adjust and settle down as a couple. We had to learn how to do things together and make decisions as a team, which often felt like a rollercoaster ride. Many of us assume that life becomes easier after marriage, but that’s not always the case. Marriage teaches you the importance of teamwork. When you start thinking and acting as an individual rather than working together, things often don’t go as smoothly for either partner. A friend once told me that people don’t like being told what to do or how to fix their marriage, and I couldn’t agree more. Sometimes, I feel the same way. While advice is often given freely, I believe it’s more meaningful to offer genuine support. If I can use my skills to help someone identify what’s missing in their marriage and work with them to find solutions, it’s worth the effort. That’s why I’m committed to continuously learning new things, so I ca...

One of the most beautiful but challenging lessons I’ve learned in my journey as a personal growth and relationship coach is that no matter how busy life gets, a few meaningful moments spent together each day can strengthen a bond more than grand gestures ever could. Improving communication in marriage or any partnership is essential for building a strong, healthy relationship. When communication flows well, couples can better understand each other, resolve conflicts, and deepen their emotional connection. I’d like to share a few tips that worked wonders for me and the couples I’ve worked with. Along the way, I’ll weave in a few personal stories to help bring these ideas to life. 1. Be a Careful and Active Listener Early in my marriage, I remember a time when my husband shared a work challenge he was facing. I was half-listening while scrolling through my phone. He stopped mid-sentence and asked, “Are you even listening to me?” That moment stung, and I realized how much I was missing b...

Why Do Marriages Fall Apart So Soon? Let’s Talk About It. Hey there! As a new blogger and someone who’s passionate about understanding relationships, I’ve been reflecting on a question that many of us might have thought about: Why do so many marriages end almost as quickly as they begin? It’s surprising how often couples realize—just weeks or months after their wedding—that things aren’t working out. But why is this realization happening after marriage? Couldn’t these issues have been addressed earlier? What’s stopping us from confronting the cracks before they turn into an unfixable chasm? Maybe it’s fear. Maybe it’s avoidance. Maybe we’re hoping the problems will disappear on their own. Or maybe some of us don’t know where to begin. Whatever the reason, it’s clear that many couples hesitate to take that first step toward resolving their differences. But here’s the thing: marriage isn’t about perfection. It’s not about living out a fairy tale or matching the highlight reels of picture...